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Drama and Unjust Accusations October 30, 2007

Posted by Steve in diary, rants.
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Sigh…

In an earlier post, “Cluelessness as the Key to Success,” I stated that I, essentially, am not good at staying angry at people. As a corollary, I think it can safely be assumed that I try to avoid drama at all costs.

This does not stop drama from occurring all around me, however, and it does not keep me from occasionally being drawn into the middle of it, despite my best efforts.

One thing I hate more than drama is injustice. An injustice done unto me I can disregard. An injustice done unto another I have a much, much harder time ignoring.

And it is more or less impossible to talk about the problems without naming names. So let me say this as quickly and as simply as possible.

FD, Princess did NOT offer to try to sell your products with profits for herself in mind. She offered to sell your products in an attempt to help you and to help you realize your self worth. Some of your products are too good to be kept to yourself. The Princess is good at marketing. She was offering to give floor space for your stuff, create advertising copy, take photos, upload textures, and in essence do all the work of selling your things for you. In return, she was asking for a mere 10% commission, partially to help offset upload and labor costs, and partly because she felt it was very fare considering the work she was offering to do. Any profits she got from the sales would be miniscule and not worth her efforts. She was doing it as an offer of friendship, and for no other reason.

FD, when Princess talked to you after your argument with our then mutual friend, YOU initiated the contact. The Princess talked to you for well over an hour, giving you her full attention, and genuinely trying to help as best she could. When she saw that the conversation was getting circular and she could see no way of resolving the conflict, she tried to break off the conversation easily. I can remember her RL self saying, “He said, ‘Sorry for wasting your time.” I didn’t say he was wasting my time at all!” She was flabbergasted and frustrated. She was trying to help someone whom she considered to be a good friend, and felt she was getting her hand bitten in the process.

As for her “ignoring” you, the Princess is painfully shy and likes to hide. It takes her a long time to warm up to many people. Many of the posts in her own blog talk about this very issue.

The reasons for the Princess’s anger are that she feels that she did everything she could to be a friend, and her gestures of friendship were publicly and unjustly twisted acts of greed and selfishness.

Yes, she is my wife. Yes, I am defending her. But I can fairly say that she had done nothing, NOTHING, to deserve what you accused her of, and nothing that indicated that she was anything but a friend to you. She was genuinely hurt when she felt you turned on her, and even more hurt when you took her off your friends list.

This is all I plan to say on the matter. What I’ve said is not the truth as I see it, but as I KNOW it to be. I’m not open to debate, and I will tolerate no drama in the comments to this post. I don’t know what your argument with our mutual friend was, and I only care in so far as the outcome has somehow caused an explosion in the midst of my little circle of friends, and I, for one, can do without the heartache.

Sigh…

Now I’ve got a RL funeral to worry about, and am still making a serious effort to try to lift myself from my own depression. I am desperately hoping that I won’t have to worry any more about all this bullshit.

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1. FD Spark - October 31, 2007

Anyway I am sorry for my part.
It hard to tell.
I removed her from my list so I wouldn’t bother her again after the conversation. I have felt bad about thing for months. I didn’t know why it bothered me it just did but no one has known about this. I even have mentioned how hurt I had felt and I didn’t understand why Princess behavior bothered me so much when she wouldn’t even say hello to me in crowd in room back to me.
I removed her because I felt embarrassed and felt I was just annoying her. And I already felt bit suspicious of her but I wanted to give it chance too because I related to somethings she went through. There many similar things your wife has mention to me that I am going through too. Including being very depressed right now.
Removal had more to do with not wanting to be burden and then it became enflamed with the fact I felt hurt and betrayed. I am sorry for my part. Can we let it die now?
I promise to keep to my side of the world and never bother any of you.

2. FD Spark - November 1, 2007

Oh I actually forgot to mention I paid Princess that day 10 percent of 5k what I made that day which was 500l to help her out. And had told her if she sold my stuff I would split half of the profits…..anyway it doesn’t matter now.
It was nice to talk to you yesterday. I forgot to mention that. Happy Halloween.

3. FD Spark - November 1, 2007

Oh I actually forgot to mention I paid Princess that day 10 percent of 5k what I made that day which was 500l to help her out. And had told her if she sold my stuff I would split half of the profits…..anyway it doesn’t matter now.
It was nice to talk to you yesterday. I forgot to mention that. Happy Halloween.


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